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Meaningful Relationships

Updated: Feb 13, 2018


Stop living with fear as if a paralyzing force had gotten hold of you and made you hide whom and what you want to be and do in life because after all, this is the ONLY life you have to live here and now. I have, as of this moment, stopped all the fear in mine.

Perhaps what happened to me has happened to you too.

I was raised believing certain ways were the right ways, specially in relationships, and I have learned through the passing of the years, and lots of evident proof, that these treaties made between a party of two were bankrupt and had no lasting ties of goodness and satisfaction to all involved.

I have seen too many of these treaties gone south where only one of the parties involved is holding the end of the deal to make the treaty work. That is never a good treaty. I have seen the end result of such treaty. Being with someone and feeling alone is one of the end results of this kind of deal. I know what that is like and have no fear to say and decide now and for good, that, I want that no more now or ever.

I had to learn to redefine the significance and meaning of many of the clauses of the treaty I was in, according to facts and proof, and then come to a conclusion of the best, workable life lasting, profitable treaty. So I had to stop all fear in order to understand and redefine the treaty.

I had to stop being afraid of not following what everyone else was doing and I had to stop being afraid of what would the rest of the world, at least the majority of them, had ratified in their evident failed treaties. I had to make a treaty that would make us great again. A treaty that would profit give till the end of time and beyond. One that would win a Nobel Prize and would be remembered for younger generations to read about and copy. This most excellent, life lasting treaty.

I had to first and foremost take a good look inside me and face me once and for all no matter how ugly and messy this was. So I have come clean with myself and put aside all childish nonsense. All empty expectations that lead to deception and disillusion. And face what I really want the rest of my life to be. How, for what, with who and for how long? These questions though tedious, are a must to deal with if the treaty is to work.

Nothing is written in stone except the 10 commandments and to me those are unbreakable. Since nothing besides the above is written in stone, I had to look at the learned behavior I grew up with and scrap what was not true and was not a good deal for this treaty. I had to learn to unlearn all the unworkable behavior that leads to disappointment and emptiness.

For example you are all that matters and no one else.Your needs are number one and must be met everytime. Me first, me second, me last and me,me,me. This is not good for the treaty unless you want to be in this treaty all by yourself and therefore it is not a treaty. You have to willingly , and knowingly decide with consciousness that you want to enter this treaty with someone else forever. That there will be no expiration date for this treaty.

And so I do not want to be all by myself and therefore, all that matters, is not me.

I have to go by the clauses and laws and rules of this treaty that works for two and profits two on the same level, not thinking that in the end or after a while it will only be good for one party.

So I listed what my all by myself actions, reactions, behaviors, thoughts, beliefs and doings were and I had to erase those from the treaty on purpose. At least I had to make those not as important in this treaty as much as I could. It was then evident that from the actions of mine these were making my life, for the most part, not good for a treaty of two. So all by myself is not in this treaty and any and all clauses that have to do with that, are not to be in this treaty at all.

Then you start practicing it by yourself to see how it works before you put it in a treaty that is to be signed, and it is not feeling good for a while until you start seeing and feeling the results.

In this treaty you have to give to get back and you give and give and make this giving of yourself and resources so that then the other party sees and knows that this treaty is beneficial, unselfish and productive.

It is not over night you can put this to practice because, this is not a breakable treaty you are entering into. So you make all the necessary adjustments to make its function good and longlasting..

My life has entered and drawn up a New Treaty with many, Sons, Parents, Family, friends and loved one.

I am signing this new treaty with all, and my number one clause is a very wise one.

The first Law that will make this treaty work and go smooth and be good to all involved.

This is the main Law from which the rest of the treaty derives from. Without this main Law there is no working treaty at all.

I am talking about the Law of Love and the definition of love that I learned growing up was all wrong. I have looked up the real meaning and am sticking to it. This is how I will love all around in this new treaty.

1 Corinthians 13:2-8

  • 2 If I have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have a faith that can move mountains, but do not have love, I am nothing.

  • 3 If I give all I possess to the poor and give over my body to hardship that I may boast, but do not have love, I gain nothing.

  • 4 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.

  • 5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.

  • 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth.

  • 7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

  • 8 Love never fails.

So there you go, an unfailing treaty has to be grounded and written with love as the main Law to follow or else it will never work.

I have decided once and for all to follow these clauses to the best of my ability because at 56 years of age I do not have all the time in the world to fool around with failing, unprofitable treaties that perhaps sounded good but availed nothing. And when I reach the age of 70 I want my treaty to be in full blast and profiting me in returns that will just overflow.

These 8 are the main clauses to abide and go by in this new treaty of mine.

If you follow these there is no wrong, cheating, ill treatment you will give or get.

After all a treaty is a pact, agreement, settlement. A formally concluded and ratified agreement between countries. In this matter, between two or more people. And the Law of Love is the only Law that will make this treaty work.

Having only the given promise of Him who made mankind , that this way is the only proven way that treaties between us all will ever work and never fail. To sign any other treaty than this is to for sure invite war and devastation all around and a life of could haves, should haves and regrets.

So, I hereby agree to ratify this treaty in my life and how I go about doing business with all that I therefore sign this treaty from this day of January 2nd 2017 hence.

“If we don't love the way God asks of us to, we are just making noise that will never be music.”


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